“It’s One Of My Theories That When People Give You Advice They’re Just Talking To Themselves In The Past.” ~ Mark Epstein

Let’s Catch Up…

I saw you a couple of weeks ago but was too shy to say anything to you.

I understand. I’m shy too, but next time just come say hi.

I need a new wardrobe. Please tell me your favorite places to shop?

I need a new wardrobe too! I threw away 90% of my wardrobe today. I usually go to Revolve, Nordstrom or Niemans.

Your hair is growing so quickly! Can you tell me what hair care products you use? Are you using some kind of hair growth vitamins?

I’m not using any hair growth vitamins. I do wash my hair every week with Redken products, and Kenra products.

What camera do you take your photos with?

I use my Nikon, or my Samsung S7, but since I dropped that phone, I’ve been using my new iPhone. I have two phone lines so whatever phone is charged that day, is the phone I use.

My daughter is 11, and she is 5’5. Where do you find age-appropriate clothes?

I understand how you feel 100% My girl is 12 and she’s 5’8. I’m just like what the heck??? She’s hella tall! I’ve found her jeans at American Eagle, Gap, and Nordstrom.

I put a lot of thought into asking you this question because I know it’s kind of personal, but I’ll see if you respond…  You responded to a question a long time ago and mentioned you were on the IUD. Mind sharing which one?

I was using Mirena, but I’m no longer on birth control. I had it for 10 years and it was great. I highly recommend it.

What’s the red lipstick you always wear?

Ruby Woo by M.A.C.

I’m getting a little frustrated with all the “men” I’m meeting nowadays. They seem great at first but then turn into fboys and ghost! What’s the best way to get over these guys? What’s the best spot/way to meet a great guy?

I keep hearing terrible stories about men!!! I’m sorry to hear you’re going through all of that. I have male friends complaining about the same thing with women. When I was dating everyone was saved in my phone as free food. I didn’t take anyone serious, and I wasn’t looking for serious. I’m all about letting things flow and whatever happens, happens. I’ve never been ghosted so I can’t really give advice on that.

I loved your book recommendations. Will you start a book club?

Ha! Girl, please! I don’t have time. I wish I did though.

Hi Riley. I’m trying to decide between visiting San Antonio or Austin. What are your thoughts?

I would definitely go to Austin. I love Austin. San Antonio is too slow for me. I’m definitely a city girl who needs action.

I have so many questions to get caught up on, but I’ll be answering them.

If you have any questions drop me a comment.

Have A Great Superbowl Sunday!!

January Reads in 2018

“A Reader Lives A Thousand Lives Before He Dies, said Jojen. The Man Who Never Reads Lives Only One.” ~George R.R. Martin

Let’s Blog Over Books We Need To Read In 2018…

Happy Sunday! There’s not much going on around here except a lot of reading.

My Dad saw me reading a book not too long ago, and he said: “If you ever disappeared I know I’d find you either on a beach or under a tree, and N E V E R without a book!” Growing up I was always that kid who had a book with them at all times. I see kids today who are completely tech savvy, but I never really see them reading which baffles me because I would completely lose myself within the pages of a book and be brought to a whole new world filled with adventures.  I’m such an advocate for reading. Reading is something that will expand the way you think, take you places your feet never would’ve and teach you things you would’ve otherwise gone without knowing. There’s so much to be discovered between the pages of a good book, so I’m starting 2018 sharing some of my favorite books with you all.

Here are some books that I am currently reading, planning on reading, or re-reading because I love them S O much!

Eat. Pray. Love. – Elizabeth Gilbert

This has been one of my favorite books for many years. It has aided me in me in my own self-discovery and is such an inspiration. It will show you spiritual truths through the author’s personal journey. This is an uplifting story of a woman who puts hectic life on hold and allows herself to heal after a difficult divorce. She takes care of herself physically first, immersing herself in the beautiful scenery and lots of comfort food, renews herself spiritually, and then, when she does not expect it, finds love.

Dear Ijeawele – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

By the lady who wrote “Americanah,” and who Beyonce thinks is flawless. She’s got tips on how to raise the next generation to be gender equal. Chimamanda makes us realize the subtle (and overt) ways that women are treated unequally to men by almost everyone in our society.

Crazy Rich Asians Series – Kevin Kwan

This book is part one in a series about some V E R Y crazy, rich Asians.  This the book was hilarious, captivating, with a tiny touch of suspense. A great, witty satire written from an Asian perspective. I actually learned quite a lot of cultural items, and I could not put it down, to say the least. I am starting the second book in the series this week!

Stay With Me – Ayobami Adebayo

Imagine being married for four years. And because you haven’t had a child, your husband’s family has him secretly take a second wife. That’s just the first few pages of the book. The rest is better.

The Woman In The Window -A.J. Finn

Twisty and powerful, ingenious and moving. A smart, sophisticated novel of psychological suspense that recalls the best of Hitchcock.

Milk and Honey- Rupi  Kuar

Rupi Kuar is hands down fascinating. This is a collection of poetry and prose about survival. About the experience of violence, abuse, love, loss, and femininity.

These are my January Reading picks. I have so much more on my reading list that I’ll be sharing for February. What are you reading in 2018? Let me know. I’d love to check them out!



Surprise, Surprise!! | $1000 Nordstrom Giveaway

“I Like My Money Where I Can See It. Hanging In My Closet.” ~ Carrie Bradshaw


Let’s Blog Over This $1000 Nordstrom Giveaway…

I hope everyone had the B E S T Christmas! We did! Now that it’s over, and 2018 is near, I wanted to give one of my readers a gift. Does New Year, New You ring a bell? I’ve teamed up with some of my favorite bloggers to bring you all the chance to win $1000 to Nordstrom to ring in the New Year! Exciting Right? This giveaway is open internationally and runs from 12/26 until 1/02! All you have you have to do to enter is complete as many entries in the rafflecopter widget below (bonus points if you complete all of them!). So make sure to follow me on Instagram @Ralijah & subscribe to the blog!

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Homemade Holidays | Christmas Potpourri

Let’s Blog Over Making Your House Smell Like Christmas!!!!

It’s finally the time I wait all year long for.

Thanksgiving week is here and that means the holiday craze is beginning! Yes!

Here’s the thing, every year I always make these grand plans in my head to do all my favorite holiday things. Like all of them. Put up my tree, decorate the tree all fab, make sugar cookies, decorate the house, make gingerbread houses from scratch, send out christmas cookies and holiday cards to everyone, find the best gifts, watch A L L the Christmas movies, go ice skating, make hot chocolate with giant marshmallows and loads of whipped cream, make the most grand Christmas dinner – with the table set all cute and festive. The idea is pretty much just to have the perfect Holiday season, which for me started in October.

Here ‘s the reality though, I maybe do half of those things and then Christmas comes and goes and I am really sad it’s over because I didn’t even get to cross off the other half the things on my list. It honestly happens every year.

So this year, I am speaking it into existence to get all those things done. Especially with how busy I am right now, it’s close to impossible. Instead, I am bringing the Christmas fun to the blog and making my work not work like at all. Gotta love that. I have decided that there are just way too many things I want to tell you guys all about this December, so now the weekends will be filled with Christmas cheer.

So exciting right!?!? Ok well exciting for me any way.

Today I am kicking things off with some crazy easy, holiday potpourri that simmers on the stove all day long. Don’t think I am all old and lame trying to tell you guys to make some homemade potpourri, I promise you will love this. Just trying to make the house smell like Christmas – like home. I spend tons of money on candles, and this is a cheaper option. Even if you’re a candle person, you’ll love this potpourri.

The best part is, you can really use whatever you have on hand. The must-haves in my opinion are cinnamon, citrus, ginger and vanilla. Nothing makes it feel more like the holidays than those smells. Trust me, if you are having guests over this is the perfect thing to have simmering away on the stove. So try it at Thanksgiving. It’s a great easy fix that makes people feel warm, cozy and welcomed!

Jeez, I am so domestic and excited. It’s the holidays, they do that too me.

  • 1 1/2 cups fresh cranberries
  • 3 tangerines halved
  • 3 whole cinnamon sticks
  • 2 star anise gives a strong black licorice smell. optional
  • 1 teaspoon whole cloves
  • 1 inch piece fresh ginger
  • 1 tablespoon vanilla bean + 1 vanilla extract
  • 1 small branch fresh pine
  • 1 cup apple cider pomegranate or cranberry juice
  • water

I can’t wait to hear what you all think!




Happy Saturday! Let’s Chat…

I’m looking for a stocking for my baby girl (her first Christmas)! Any suggestions on cute ones that aren’t too childish looking?

I get all of my Christmas stockings from Pottery Barn. You can never go wrong with this classic one, and I think this collection is just TOO cute!!!

I’m in need of some new black lingerie. Can you give me some suggestions on cute pieces or where to shop?

I love lingerie from La Perla, but I’ve been getting everything lately from Gooseberry Intimates. Fleur Du Mal has some amazing pieces as well.

Riley, with your HR background, can you give resume tips, or maybe do a post regarding that sometime soon? I’d like to be prepared for the new year.

I’ll work on a post for you!!!

Hi Riley! I met you at Williams Sonoma. We were the older couple. You are such a sweet girl, and you’re so funny. Absolutely informative about the kitchen. Will you be posting your duck recipe anytime soon?!

Hi!!! Thank you for your sweet words. When we get a little closer to Christmas I will post the duck recipe!!!

What shows are you currently watching? I need something to binge!

Hmm… Well, my friend Caroline got me stuck on this show called 90 Day Fiancé. I started from season 5. It’s a mess, but keeps me glued. I just finished watching Stranger Things. I love the Good Doctor. However- Power, Insecure, and Game Of Thrones is my shit!!! Lol. Real Talk…

What was the lash serum you posted on instastories?

Olive oil in one of my moms jars.

Riley- I was shocked to learn that you were 30. I wouldn’t have thought you were a day over 23. What is your skincare routine?

It is true. I celebrated my dirty 30 this year. It wasn’t dirty though. I don’t wear makeup a lot. I actually didn’t start wearing makeup until I was 25. I drink a lot of water, and I just wash my face every morning and night followed by moisturizer.

Your instagram story of you, your brothers, and dad was so funny. I love your laugh!!! What was the back story on that? You guys all range is colors and features. Who do you look like? Are you all close?

GAWDDDD!!! They’re so annoying, but they’re so funny so it’s hard not to laugh. I don’t remember the back story, I just know they were talking smack about everything. Lol. We do all look different. Jordan is tall and very, very fair with red hair. Blue is really dark with colored eyes, and then me… I took after my mom. My family and I are very close. My brothers are my best friends.

How does it feel to look in the mirror and be so perfect looking? Seriously a question though lol…

Honestly- I wouldn’t know…

Hi! You always braid Skylar’s hair so beautifully. How did you learn to braid? I’ve tried braiding my daughter’s hair, but not only can i not braid but I can’t get her to sit still. Any tips?

I’ve always known how to braid, but I learned all kinds of braids in Cosmetology School. I took Cosmetology in high school mostly because it was 3 credits in one year. Lol. True Story! Skylar has always been good at being still when I did her hair. My little Angel Girl. Try giving her a book, or turning on a show she likes.

What was the name of the christmas song you were blasting while you were cooking? It sounded very catchy.

Lol! That was called the Mistletoe Jam by Luther Vandross. That’s my Jam!!!

What are you cooking today?

Hamburger Helper. Lol! Nothing fancy going on over here today!

What are you listening to right now?

The new Sam Smith Album. OMG you H A V E to listen to it.

Where’d you get those ripped sweatpants?

My favorite store. Target!

It was fun chatting. If you have any questions please leave them in the comments or shoot me an email.

-Have a great weekend! xx