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I’ve gotten my Masters degree in the HR, but I have no experience. I don’t want to start at entry-level, but it seems that with my lack of experience that is my only option. I’ve been wondering if you have any suggestion for climbing the HR ladder?

You have everything needed on paper to grab the attention needed to get you in the door. However, lack of experience is something you definitely want to acquire. I’m learning that most companies are now more interested in people who have that experience, and it’s been making up for having a degree. Not to say a degree is not needed. It’s just that now I’m noticing that the degree is the added bonus. I say start entry-level to gain that experience needed and maybe find a mentor. Stay up to date with HR regulations and policies as they are ever evolving. Network. There is always an HR Mixer going on here in Houston. That can be another great way for you to get your foot in the door and take advantage of amazing opportunities.

I have recently broke up with my boyfriend. He was a little abusive mentally, a cheater and everything bad in between. I stayed because I was used to him only, he was a great provider, and contrary to all the bad it was mostly good. When it finally ended, he ended things because he wanted to see what was out there. Truth is I’ve been so happy since the breakup. However he feels he made a mistake and wants me back. He won’t leave me alone. He keeps calling, emailing, anything he can do to reach me. Since I’ve refused to take him back he says things like I’ll never find better, or no one will love me more. I slipped up and had a little meeting with him, but I don’t know what I should do. My friends said I should block him and move on. When it was time to move on with your life how did you handle removing them from your life? Was it the best move to open the doors to meet new people? I feel like if I don’t close the door, then he’ll always be there…

G I R L ! Drop and Block him! My last relationship was like that. It was very dysfunctional. When it was time to end things, it was hard for me at first. Even with all the wrong that happens, you still go through the pain of losing someone you’ve been with. Like your ex, he too tried to come back, and he keeps trying to come back. I changed my number, deleted my email address, and my social media. When I finally started to come around social wise, the first hint of him, he got blocked. When leaving a relationship, they say the best way to move on is find something new, but I don’t think so. I think that’s the time for you to really look at what you want, and to heal from your situation. When you least expect it the right person will come along.

What were your most dependable workout shoes this year? I’m planning to jump back into a workout routine January 1st and need some good options! Also, what do your workout’s consist of?

You’re asking the wrong person this question. My trainer says I need velcro toddler shoes because my laces are always coming untied. I haven’t been working out, but my diet is completely changing in the upcoming year. It’s so hard to work out with all the holidays and eat right with all the food. My workout usually consists of jump rope, tons of weight squats and anything he feels like killing me with that day. I may try to do a video showing how my workouts work.

I really loved your relationship Q&A. I also loved how direct, open and honest you were with a side of funny. Considering what you are going through it has to be really hard, and it’s admirable that you continue to maintain your relationship and continue to grow. Claps Hands For You! Are you going to touch more on the relationship topic in the future? I think we’d all be interested to hear what you have to say.

Thank you! I’ve received a lot of positive feedback from that post. People that know me and see my relationship would have never imagined that we were dealing with that, and everyone has offered their support to not only me, but my guy as well. I can truly say that we have an amazing group of friends, family, and my readers are just as amazing. I have been thinking about touching more on this topic, but it’s something that would happen some time next year if it does.

Will you be posting more recipes in the future? Each one I’ve tried has come out so good. Where did you learn to cook?

I’m so glad to hear that!! I will be posting more recipes, but it’ll probably be clean eating. My body is tired of alcohol, heavy food, and junk food.

Hi Riley. I recently came across your blog as I was stalking Perez Hilton and saw that he liked and followed. LOL (i’m not crazy). It eventually led me to reading every single post on your blog and scrolling through your instagram. I saw that you gave one of your commenters the finger and I decided you’re someone I can get with! I was thinking of starting a blog, but I’m a little afraid of the criticism or not getting the support. Any Advice?

LOL!!! I was so shocked when that happened!!! I woke my guy up out of his S L E E P ! ! !  I usually don’t just give people the finger. It’s usually a friend of mine. Other people I ignore. My guy is probably my biggest supporter next to my mom. Don’t get me wrong everyone around me is so supportive, but he and my mom are the biggest. Some advice they always tell me is that people will always have something to say or criticize, but at least you tried. Everyone isn’t brave enough to go after their dream.

I’m in Houston and I was looking into attending something fun for the new year. Is there anywhere particular you’ll be?

I will particularly be at home. We’re having a small New Year’s thing at home. We’re going to cook, light some cigars, and toast to 2018.

I’ve noticed that you’ve taken a few quick getaways, but you haven’t posted about it on the blog. I’m dying to know where you’ve been and where you’re going in 2018!

I’ve been meaning to post so many things on here, and I just did not have the time. I’m going to do so much better next year. We have a few trips coming up that I’m so excited about, so stay tuned to that.

I love your style. You never disappoint!!! What is your inspiration, and have you thought about starting a line of your own?

Thank you! My style has evolved so much from when I was younger, but I think that goes for everyone. I wouldn’t say that I had inspiration exactly. I just know what I want to look like in my head, and I look for the pieces that makes my vision sort of come alive if that makes sense. I don’t know if I’ll be starting a line, but that is something to be considered.

Hello! I was a reader even back when you were Blogging Over Wine. I liked that you incorporated your favorite books. It was always my favorite part and something I looked forward to. Have you thought about bringing it back?

I absolutely have!!! There’s some great books that I’m going to be sharing very soon!!!

That’s all the questions I have time for today. Don’t forget that I’m giving away $1,000 to Nordstrom. So don’t forget to subscribe and follow me on Instagram @Ralijah. You have until January 2nd.


Gruene, TX | Travel Diary

“You May Go To Hell, & I Will Go To Texas.” ~ Davy Crockett

Summer is the season for birthday’s…

It’s taken me a little while to get around to this post. I’ve been doing some nonstop travel. I recently did a travel post on L.A., and as soon as I got back to Houston, I was already preparing for another quick getaway. Another one of my BFF’s, (Kelly) turned 30. We’ve been friends since we were 11. She’s a wonderful person in every aspect of the word.

She decided that she wanted to celebrate her birthday 3 hours down the street in New Braunsfel’s to see The Natural Bridge Caverns. It’s about 30 minutes away from San Antonio. I was super excited. I was able to go to the caverns last year in Virginia, and I had the BEST time.

I left Friday evening right after work, and to say I was tired would be an understatement. I stayed with some family and was greeted with fajitas, margaritas, and trés leche. If you know hispanic families, you know eating is a necessity when arriving. You can’t say no! I never turn fajitas or margaritas down anyway. However, it put me in a food coma.

The next day my friends drove down and we met in Gruene. I LOVE Gruene!!! It’s a small, beautiful town. Once a significant cotton-producing community along the Guadalupe River. The town is brought to life by the music you hear at Gruene Hall. It was built in 1878, and is one of the oldest dance halls in Texas. The entire time I was thinking ‘Why did I leave my cowboy boots? Why don’t I have a pair in the trunk?’ I couldn’t wait to stomp and make some noise.

We ended up having lunch at the Gristmill Restaurant. This place is gorgeous. It’s surrounded by Oak Trees, and sits right on the river. It’s kind of like a tree house. The food was served in a big portion. I had Salmon, salad, and grilled veggies. It was really hot out, and I didn’t want to eat anything heavy, but I did want something that would give me energy for the walk we were going to be doing at the Caverns.

Once we got to the Natural Bridge Caverns, we were all pretty psyched. We did have to wait an hour before our tour started, so we did what any group of people would do. We bought cards and wine and played Gin until it was time to go!!!

The caverns were really beautiful on the inside. We couldn’t touch anything because that was a 3rd degree felony. I’m a little rebellious so I have a tendency of doing the opposite of what I was told. I don’t do bars though. Kelly also reminded me that my’ASS’ would go to prison and even if she did defend me in court I would serve time. Some lawyer! lol.

Towards the end of the tour we went up an incline that had my my body BURNING. I could feel my muscles breaking down. It was a real workout. Once we saw the light and stepped outside, Texas disrespected us with 105 degree weather. By the time we got to our cars we were all exhausted and in need of a shower and a nap. We had the absolute best time though.


L.A. | Travel Diary

“Bumping California Love On The West Side…” ~ T.I.

You know the rest of the lyrics to that quote…

One of my best friend’s turned 30, and I couldn’t wait to get back to L.A. to celebrate with him. We have been friends for 19 years, and he’s been there for me through everything under the moon and the stars in the sky. There was no way I was going to miss his special day. I took a 7 A.M. flight early Friday morning at his request. I’m not a morning person, but all of his wishes were being granted just because it was his special day.

I landed around 9 A.M. that morning, and met up with my friend Antwon who flew in from Atlanta and arrived the same time. It was a little chilly when we arrived, but that quickly changed. I planned to be cute the entire trip, and ended up wearing T-shirts, jeans, and kicks everyday. So moving on… We met up with Dwain, and as soon as he said “I have a surprise for you!” – He pulled out some customized decorated flasks with our names on them, and in that moment I knew my life was over and that I was probably gonna die! The first thing on his list of things to do was grab early morning michelada’s and mimosa’s. I’m not complaining, because I’m down for those two things ANY time!

We later headed to The Parlor out on Melrose for a quick dinner and some drinks before hitting the town. I had their Salmon. I wasn’t disappointed. There were amazing views of L.A., live music, and just overall good vibes.

Saturday morning Antwon and I took advantage of Dwain ‘sleeping in’ and headed to The 14th Factory. Simon Burch had the most incredible exhibit. It was personally my favorite part of the trip. I literally lost myself in the art and design in each part of the factory.

Later that day we headed to change, drink some Frosé’s, and danced the night away at The Abbey. Yea it’s a gay bar! They had Frosé though! Lol! It’s actually diverse. I had the best time.

By Sunday I was working on very little energy, but we met up with some close friends and had the most amazing brunch at The Church Key. Bottomless Bellini’s were calling my name. Their Chicken and Waffles was a staple on their menu. I also had a side of fried eggs, and Jalapeño’s. If you know me then you get it. We were there having the best time catching up, singing, laughing and just enjoying each other while celebrating Dwain.

Listen- When I tell you by Monday I was ready to go! LoL!!! I literally partied the entire weekend, and I couldn’t wait to get home to get some well deserved R&R. Before my flight we headed to Santa Monica to relax on the beach before it was time for me to head to the airport. My guy’s know I’m a mermaid at heart, so I refused to leave without heading to at least one beach! It was hot as hell outside and I was sweating out my blowout, so I needed a beach.

On the way back Dwain begged me to move back. To be honest, I didn’t realize just how much I missed the west coast until I was there. Who knows though…