After Christmas Sales

Let’s Blog Over SALES, SALES, SALES!!!

There are T O N S of After Christmas Sales going down right now so here is a quick post for you girls sharing all of my favorites!

American Eagle 

$40 off $150+ | $25 off $100+ | $10 off $50+ with code: MERRY

Ann Taylor

40% off with code SHOP40 + up to 70% off all sale items


up to 50% off

Banana Republic

60% off everything


50% off entire purchase

J. Crew

Take 30% off final sale items with code CHEERS


Select styles are up to 50% off + FREE shipping


20% off sale styles


25% off all sale items with code JOY25


Don’t forget that I’m giving away $1,000 to Nordstorm!!! Make sure you follow me on Instagram and Subscribe to the blog. For more details, see my post about it here.


Good Luck!!!





Surprise, Surprise!! | $1000 Nordstrom Giveaway

“I Like My Money Where I Can See It. Hanging In My Closet.” ~ Carrie Bradshaw


Let’s Blog Over This $1000 Nordstrom Giveaway…

I hope everyone had the B E S T Christmas! We did! Now that it’s over, and 2018 is near, I wanted to give one of my readers a gift. Does New Year, New You ring a bell? I’ve teamed up with some of my favorite bloggers to bring you all the chance to win $1000 to Nordstrom to ring in the New Year! Exciting Right? This giveaway is open internationally and runs from 12/26 until 1/02! All you have you have to do to enter is complete as many entries in the rafflecopter widget below (bonus points if you complete all of them!). So make sure to follow me on Instagram @Ralijah & subscribe to the blog!

Good luck!



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Somewhere Lately | Life Via The Camera Roll

“Don’t Cry Because It’s Over. Smile Because It Happened.” ~ Dr. Seuss

Let’s Blog Over Life Lately…

Happy Saturday! I usually do #CoffeeTalk on our Saturday mornings, but Skylar is sick with the flu, and I’m also a little under the weather. I’ll be spending the day washing, sanitizing, and spraying lysol every five seconds. Ralph and Aven will probably have a Man’s Weekend, and my parents are coming over. My mom is going to cook us some soup, and my dad will probably cuddle with Sky, and watch sports. I’m a little needy when I’m sick, so I’m grateful for my family and friends catering to my whiney old self. Not the way I wanted my Christmas weekend to start, but what can I do? With that being said, we’ll hold the questions until next week, and I’ll catch you up on life via the camera roll.

Did Some Christmas Shopping and Sushi With Amanda

Christmas Fun With The Best Of Friends

Mira Esa Cara!!! He wants Similac. I was shaking it up! Pobrecito…

He’s Forever Loving Me

Bitch stole my outfit and had the nerve to strike a pose!  Only at an Oscar De La Renta Show…

My sister came to visit from New Orleans

We took our friends to a game. Primera Vez por Alejandro y Caroline.

It was a marvelous night for a Moon Dance

French and Spanish Weddings

Arguing with my 3-year-old cousin Me: You’re chubby. Rochi: No you’re Chubby. Me: Your Mom! Her Face!!

When your brother tries to get a sauce stain out of a hoodie… We Love Him.

On Tuesday’s we salsa dance. This was right before Ralph grabbed my hand and we were spinning…

We hosted the most E P I C dinner party. Everyone had a blast!! I’m obsessed with cheese and wine.


Last night I spent hours wrapping gifts. Then more came and i’m sitting here pondering if I should just hide them until Christmas. T H I S was a lot or work!

Have A Great Weekend & Don’t Forget To Smile!!


Wine Down Wednesday | Relationship Q&A

Let’s Blog Over Relationships…

I’ve been getting a lot of emails on relationship advice, and questions about my relationship in general. Everyone close to me knows that unless you’re in my inner circle, I’m usually private when it comes to my relationship matters. I don’t volunteer information, but if I’m asked a question I answer it. I’ve been told that I can be very direct, and brutally honest.

Last week on a #CoffeeTalk post I was asked a question about balancing families during the holidays. I responded with pick the one you like least and that can be the holiday you spend with his family. To clarify, I believe in equal time being spent between both families, but sometimes that’s not always the case due to certain situations. To my surprise I received A LOT of feedback about that. I went back and forth about even addressing the questions I’ve received, but after reading one particular email, I felt I should answer some questions.

P O U R S  W I N E. . .

The biggest argument in my household is about spending time with his family. They treat me terribly, and I have suffered 3 miscarriages because of it. I have no family, and have always wanted to be accepted. At this point, I don’t think I can physically deal with it. How should I deal with this?

Let me just say first that I am sorry for what you are going through, and I can relate 100%. I, too, have miscarried, and that feels like your heart being ripped out of your chest. It’s not something you get over. E V E R ! Like you, I blame his family. At the point of losing a baby, a decision was made. We chose us. If one can’t be respectful, they don’t come around. If one isn’t accepting of us both then they can’t be around. He can visit by himself, but it won’t be major occasions. That is reserved for U S. You have to put your well-being, relationship, and health first.

How would that work when marriage and children come along?

For me marriage is already there, but when kids come along they won’t know them. There would have to be a drastic change, but until then that’s what it is right now. It was a tough decision, but it’s one we came up with. We came to a decision that we only want a supportive, genuine, and just a good group of people around us, and any children we have. We have that, and we’ve worked hard to build a foundation based off love, friendship, and most importantly G O D. An unbreakable bond. We have targeted where the negativity comes in, and we avoid it. We realize people will feel how they feel, and say what they want to say regardless of knowing you or not. That’s their choice and there is really nothing you can do about that. However, people don’t think of the long run and how what they do in present time can really take a toll on future relationships.

I’m going through that situation, and my parents wonder why I’m never with my boyfriends family. In my situation it’s a racial thing. Should I tell them? Have you told yours and what is their reaction?

I have expressed my situation to my family and some close friends. I won’t go into detail about everything that was said, but it wasn’t very pretty. Overall I look at it as basically these are people who hate me, lie about me, curse me, write terrible things about me, and consistently gossip about me, and they don’t even know me. Never met, or have held a conversation with me. It’s been years, and we live together!! It was really hurtful at first for both of us. Especially for him. How could you not want to see anyone close to you happy? Now it’s just comical and really sad. It shows on their character.

I was invited to my fiancé’s house for Christmas. I don’t want to go reasons being the last time I was there the mother invited the ex. I’ve been made aware that it could be the same situation again. How would you handle that?

With violence… Just kidding… Sorta… Look… Boundaries have to be set. I’ve had a situation where my guy’s sister has sent other female photos to his phone with a message saying “She’s Cute.” His mother has said and done everything to get him to leave me including trying to convince him to leave me at the airport in another state. It didn’t happen, but that’s just me painting a picture. I would address that with him. He is going to have to set boundaries, and you have to figure out how much you’re willing to deal with.

Hi Riley! I’m one of your readers from Canada, and I was intrigued by your comment of splitting holidays. My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year. We are splitting up our day for a family gathering this year, but it seems that every time we are to head over to visit with my family, he comes up with some excuse as to why he can’t. What are your thoughts on that?

Hi! Thanks for reading. Canada is so beautiful!!! I love it there, but it’s also too cold outside to date somebody that ain’t shit… Get what I’m saying??

Ralijah Nelson! I’ll be so happy if you respond to this. I need a womans point of view. Every single time me and my girl have a disagreement, she leaves, and ignores me. I know she reads my messages because I get a read receipt. How should I approach her to let her know that I don’t like that, and basically I’m tired of it. What should I say?

How about I’ma leave you in 2017 just like you left me on read. I bet she responds…

Riley! My boyfriends family think that he’s just my sugar daddy. It kind of offends me, but I don’t know how to address it without being disrespectful… 

Tell them the gender neutral term for sugar daddy is glucose guardian.  Jokes aside, people are going to say what they want to say… If you two know what it is, leave it at that. You can only keep defending yourself for so long.

Is marriage overrated? If you can’t be one with your relationships and family, is it worth it?

Well let me think… (looks at the sleeping person to the right)… No. It’s not overrated. It’s great with the right person. So definitely worth it.







Cravings | Filet Mignon

“The Only Time To Eat Diet Food Is While You’re Waiting For The Steak To Cook.” ~ Julia Child

Let’s Blog Over Filet Mignon!

It has been a very busy week for me so far. My Mom finally came back home from Alaska (Grandma in tow), and since their arrival it’s been non-stop fun, Christmas preparations, and running these H-Town streets.

Thursday was date night. It was such a busy day that by the time I was done running all over Houston the last thing on my mind was going home to get dolled up just to go back out. That just wasn’t happening. At all. Instead I decided to pick up a giant gingerbread house, some filet mignon, lobster, and champagne, and chill at home.  So glad I did!

I’m mostly pescatarian, but I have to admit that my favorite animal is steak. Yes. I really did just say that. Not only do I love steak, but I think I’ve just outdone myself with this recipe. I mean the myriad of flavors exploded on my tongue, shimmied through my mouth, slapped my taste buds, and called them filthy bastards, and I L O V E D it. You will too! I promise.


Here’s What You’ll Need:

2(8 ounce) filet mignon steaks

Kosher Salt

Fresh Cracked Black Pepper

12 tablespoons unsalted Butter, softened 

tablespoon Olive Oil

4 garlic cloves, minced

1 tablespoon fresh parsley chopped

1 tablespoon fresh thyme

1 tablespoon lemon zest

Cayenne Pepper


Preheat your oven to 400 degrees. Season your filet generously with salt and pepper. Get your cast iron skillet and lightly season the inside of your pan with the cayenne pepper. Heat your skillet to a searing hot pan. Not too hot that it’ll turn your smoke detectors on, but make it really hot. Add 8 tablespoons of butter, and the 2 tablespoons of olive oil. Once the butter has melted add your filet’s to the skillet. Let them cook 2 to 3 minutes per side until a nice crust has formed. Do not touch them while they are cooking. Get a spoon and top with butter while they are searing. Once each side has been seared, carefully take the entire skillet with the filets and put it in the oven for about 8 to 10 minutes depending on how thick your steak is and how you like it cooked.

For your butter- add the 4 tbs of butter to your kitchen aid mixer, (whatever works best for you). Add in the parsley, garlic, thyme and lemon zest and blend on high until the butter is smooth and the ingredients have mixed well.

Once your steak is done, add the compound butter to the top and serve! I served my steak with lobster and asparagus. I also used the compound butter on the lobster and asparagus.

Can’t wait to hear your thoughts!